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Luis Torres was 25 years old and married with two sons when he came out to his wife. A decade later, his son David came out as well. Luis is 51 now and David is 32. The father and son, who have a close connection, sat down in David’s living room in Philadelphia to talk about what society expects of men, what it was fond of coming out and their experiences as gay Latino men.
Luis and David Torres were featured in The Gran Varones project. The Gran Varones, whose entitle is inspired by the 1980’s Willie Colon ballad about the relationship between a gay son and his machista father, was founded by Louis Ortiz Fonseca, an Afro-Boricua who felt there was an overly narrow media portrayal of what it means to be a Latino gay man. Ortiz Fonseca’s project of videos, photos and stories can be found at thegranvarones.com.
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My relationship with my father was amazing until I turned 12 and started forming my have opinions about the world around me.
My opinions were often different than his, and that’s when our disagreements began. In his emotional moments, he’d utter it was because we were too similar: strong traits, opinionated, talkative, and we stand up for ourselves. Except things weren’t so good when I stood up to him.
After my parents split when I was 9, I often told my dad, a macho Latino immigrant, that I didn’t fond of his disrespectful comments about my mom or his objectifying commentary about women we’d pass while driving or walking down the road. Instead of acknowledging what I was saying, he’d receive defensive and shrug me off by saying, “I’m not talking to you.” And then there was his favorite, “You’re so sensitive.”
Sensitive or not, I wanted respect.
Growing up in the suburbs of the San Francisco Bay Area, I sensed the way my dad talked to me wasn’t the norm among my peers. I was attentive that things he said in front of my younger brother and me weren’t considered appropriate by others, but regardless of what I said, he never acknowledged that he was in the wrong. His parenting
If you’re looking for a Latino French New Wave-inspired film about gay male identity, Daniel Armando‘s Daddy’s Boy is sure to be right up your alley. This dreamy black-and-white collage of vignettes follows a group of men that, as its synopsis suggests, “leave boyhood behind and shed more than just their clothes and inhibitions.”Armando’s men are sensitive and assertive, wear heels and cowboy hats, display tenderness and strength in equal measure. Exploring father-son relationships within the world of Fresh York City hustlers, porn stars, and the like, Daddy’s Boy is a steamy meditation on gay male sexuality. In one of it most indelible scenes, for example, we see a bearded male dancer (James Koroni) rehearsing shirtless in heels, lovingly exhibiting and admiring his movements in the mirrors around him, forcing us to ogle and lust after his body.
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This film powerfully tackles homophobia from a Latino dad's point of view.
When it comes to intergenerational clash, you never overhear too much about Gen Z having a hard age with Generation X or the silent generation having beef with the child boomers. However, there seems to be some problem where baby boomers and millennials just can’t get on the same page.
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