How to tell if your son is gay

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Believe it or not, it’s a hopeful sign that your teen son has brought up the subject of gay attraction and homosexuality. Nothing is more important than unseal communication between parent and child — especially when it comes to sexuality and gender identity.

So you might wish to try drawing your son out. You could request, “What made you curious about this?”

If you listen carefully and respond wisely, he might participate more of his thought processes. This can lead to a helpful discussion of the subject. It will also strengthen your bond — and a good parent-child association is one of the best lines of defense against homosexuality.

Hear your child’s heart

Joe Dallas, an expert in field of same-sex attraction, says that there are three distinct ways the pos “homosexuality” is used:

• “Homosexuality” can be used to mean specifically homosexual behavior — in other words, sexual contact with a person of the same sex.

• The word is often used to explain a frame of mind when a person sees homosexuality as a principal identifying characteristic (usually accompanied by acceptance of homosexuality as being normal and mor
  
  

  Five things every Catholic parent should perceive if their youth comes out

  As a Catholic parent of three adult LGBTQ children, I would love to explain you that my husband and I breezed through their “coming out” and subsequent journey with perfect clarity, wisdom, faith and devote. But, nah, that didn’t happen.

  We struggled, sometimes having more questions than answers. In the last few years, we have discovered many other Catholic parents like ourselves, eager to distribute their journeys and what they’ve learned about being a gay parent. So based on our family’s experience, and the experiences of fellow Catholic parents, I’d like to share five tips with you. No real names are used in this article, and some details have been left purposely vague to protect families that have not “come out” yet or wish to remain anonymous. I also have permission from our kids to share our journey. 

  1. Being a parent to queer children can be complicated and challenging

  Our path began on January 26, 2014. To narrate the first two months of that year as tough and challenging would be an understatement. It was more like being picked up by a tornado and cast down in the middle of nowhere—s
  
  

  Help! My Son is Gay

  by Ricky Chelette, Executive Director

  “So should I push my son towards women now?”  That’s a question I often get from fathers of young men who are struggling with equal gender attractions. Dads are often devastated by the discovery of their son’s homosexuality.  But the react to their son’s effort is not to thrust him into the arms of a woman.  In fact, such a relocate could actually do more damage than good.
  But what should a dad do for his son? In a word:  connect!  I realize when saying that many dads might think, “I am associated to my son. He’s my son. I’ve been around him since birth. We are fine.”  But the fact is that simply being present doesn’t mean you have any kind of emotional, intimate, connection with your son. He is a sensitive guy who needs to be spoken to in a language he can hear and understand. Proclamations of facts do minuscule to move his heart. He wants words dripping with raw emotion and heart-felt passion. He wants to know you, intimately, and feel the weight of your passion for him.  In many ways, he wants you to look him straight in his eyes and announce him how much you love him, how pleased you are of him, and how you reflect he has what i
  

  Gender non-conforming behaviours are very frequent in young children. Societal and peer pressure pushes children more towards gender conformity as they get older. However, it is not abnormal or unusual for a child to like playing with toys and wearing clothes which are associated with the opposite sex.  It is also not uncommon for such children to insist that they actually are the opposite sex although most simply grow out of it.

  It is well known that gender non-conforming life-styles are often associated with gay men and lesbian women.  There is also research showing gender non-conforming behaviours seen in children can be predictors of homosexuality later in life.

  Gender non-conforming behaviours are also observed in children with gender dysphoria and so more recently have also been used as indicators of a transgender identity.

  This complex picture makes it very difficult for parents and their children with gender issues to know if they are perhaps transgender or instead simply on their way to grow up into a gay adult or indeed neither. This has thoughtful implications when medical or psychological interventions are being considered at a young age. This page discusses