Gay sex with straight guy
It's OK guys, just admit it - half of you are not 100% straight
When it comes to sexuality, there’s never been a more exciting period to be alive. Straight, gay, pansexual, asexual, transsexual, hetero-flexible, bisexual; the endless list of sexual identities surely indicates society is heading in an ever-more inclusive direction, right? Perhaps we’re finally moving towards a time where people are less anxious to live a life that reflects who they really are.
Yet there are still some social barriers that resist to budge - especially for those people who aren't entirely sure of their own sexuality.
Sexuality is often described as a spectrum; some people distinguish as entirely unbent and others as entirely gay. However many people rest somewhere in that sizeable grey area between the two, and it seems that more childish people than ever are realising they are in that number: not spotting as bisexual, nor identifying as 100% hetero either. In a recent examination, external, when asked to place themselves on a ‘sexuality scale’, of the 18 to 24 year olds participating, 1 in 2 chose something other than 100% heterosexual. This figure contrasted vastly from the rest of the gene
Why do some vertical men have sex with other men?
According to nationally-representative surveys in the Combined States, hundreds of thousands of straight-identified men have had sex with other men.
In the novel book Still Straight: Sexual Flexibility among White Men in Rural America released today, UBC sociologist Dr. Tony Silva argues that these men – many of whom like hunting, fishing and shooting guns – are not closeted, bisexual or just experimenting.
After interviewing 60 of these men over three years, Dr. Silva start that they appreciate a range of relationships with other men, from hookups to sexual friendships to secretive loving partnerships, all while strongly identifying with straight culture.
We spoke with Dr. Silva about his book.
Why do straight-identified men have sex with other men?
The majority of the men I interviewed reported that they are primarily attracted to women, not men. Most of these men are also married to women and prefer to have sex with women. They explained that although they loved their wives, their marital sex lives were not as active as they wanted. Sex with men allowed them to contain more sex. They don’t consider sex with men cheating and s
For a long time, friendships between gay men and straight men – what some now dial “bromosexual” friendships – were uncommon. Homophobia was likely one reason; another was that straight men probably assumed they didn’t hold much in common with lgbtq+ men.
But lately, “bromosexual” friendships have started to receive more attention, acceptance and interest. They’re being explored and depicted in movies, books and blogs. In October, The New York Times even devoted an article in their Style section to “The Rise of the ‘Bromosexual’ Friendship.”
This sort of normalization is excellent news. But social scientists still haven’t studied the dynamics of these friendships: why they grow and how they’re maintained.
We’re part of a team of community, evolutionary and social psychologists that has recently begun a research program with the target of studying this very topic. Specifically, we’re interested in looking at the reasons gay men and straight men become friends (or remain friends after the gay friend comes out). We currently have a survey study underway that explores some of the positive outcomes of “bromosexual” friendships, including our theory that gay men and straight men
By Dr. Tony Silva
Sexual identities and sexual behaviours don’t always match because sexuality is multidimensional. Many people recognize sexual fluidity, and some even identify as “mostly straight.”
Fewer people realize that some men and women have same-sex encounters, yet nonetheless perceive themselves as exclusively straight. And these people are not necessarily “closeted” gays, lesbians or bisexuals.
When a closeted gay or bisexual guy has sex with another man, he views that sex as reflecting his secret identity. He is not open about that identity, likely because he fears discrimination. When a straight man has sex with another man, however, he views himself as straight despite his sex with men.
In my novel, Still Straight: Sexual Flexibility among White Men in Rural America, I probe why some men who identify as straight hold sex with other men. Large nationally representative surveys show that hundreds of thousands of straight American men — at least — have had sex with two or more other men. This discovery represents a disconnect between identity and behaviour, and researchers from around the world — in the United States, Australia and the U.K. — own studied