Gay mormon men
I am Mitch Mayne. I am an openly same-sex attracted, active Latter-day Saint.
I grew up entity taught that I could not be both male lover and Mormon. For years, I felt like a man with a foot in two worlds that didn’t intersect. Believing those words, I tried living my life as a gay man without honoring my Mormon heritage; I also tried living my life as a Mormon man without honoring my orientation. Both left me fractured.
I have reach to understand that although there are those who tell me otherwise, the two worlds of organism gay and Mormon execute intersect—and I, along with the millions of LGBT Mormons like me, am that intersection point.
Today, I strive to dwell my life in a way that integrates my religion with my orientation. Health, happiness and wholeness does not come from honoring one part of myself at the expense of the other. It comes from uniting them and recognizing that I a
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Posted by: Exmogal ( )
Date: November 26, 2014 05:51PM
How many closeted married Mormon men are there?
When I was in Utah years ago, visiting a BYU grad who lived in SLC, she told me she knew married same-sex attracted Mormon men who had boyfriends. Some of them lived in SLC and had boyfriends in other states, and some of them lived in San Fran and had boyfriends in Utah. I couldn't really grasp why they would be married and Mormon, of all things. One guy told her he liked the security of a home, wife and kids.
I knew a professor at the Y who most definitely seemed lgbtq+ (no idea other than he gave off a vibe - is gaydar real or is it just a myth?) married, with kids. I wonder if he's one of these guys and how many live this way?
I guess what I still find tough to imagine is buying into a church that is not really accepting of individuals, and having to maintain one's true self hidden. Many of us exmos own tried doing this but in the end, it's really not necessary since there being a closeted Mormon doesn't seem to own many benefits. But I guess we all choose a path and some people must sense they have
'Even though I still don't understand everything, I know that I don't own to. All I am asked to do is cherish as God would love.'
This comment, and many others enjoy it, is included in an updated version of 'Mormon and Gay,” an official website from The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. The site reinforces the reality that, in the words of one Mormon scripture, God “…loveth his children;…” (1 Nephi 11:17), and seeks to help everyone surpass understand same-sex attraction from a gospel perspective.
Laurie’s Story-A Flicker of Light That Brought Me Assist to the Saviour
The first version of this website launched in December 2012 under the title 'Mormons and Gays.' The new appellation, 'Mormon and Gay,' reflects the actual world that a person doesn’t need to choose between these two identities — one can, in fact, be lgbtq+ and live trusted to the teachings of Christ.
The Church acknowledges that Latter-day Saints experience same-sex attraction in a variety of ways. Some strive to endure celibate and others marry. Some distinguish as gay or lesbian while others do not.
Personal Accounts and Comments from Church Leaders
Mormonandgay.lds.org features five personal
As a gay Mormon, I create my home in the borderlands. In a theology that says every man must be married to a woman in command to be with God and progress in heaven, gay Mormons are anomalies. No one quite knows what to do with us.
For a while, the react was to serve a full-time mission, marry a woman, narrate no one, and let things work themselves out.
When that approach led to tragedy and broken families, the answer became celibacy, which is less of an answer and more of a holding pattern in a religion that declares the family to be “the most key unit in time and in eternity.”
Every question, from “How can I be happy with no possibility of finding a companion?” to “Will I still be gay after this life?” seems to be met with official answers amounting to “Have faith. It will work out in the end.” And, yet, despite these difficult and unanswered questions, I choose to continue to participate in my Latter-day Saint congregation and community.
So if I don’t belong, why stay? There are plenty of affirming faith communities where queer people and their families have a place at the table as equals. But Mormonism is part of me